March Goals

I’ve never been one of those people who makes goals. That whole business about identifying what you want in the future and then following through on the work to get there? Yeah, that stuff scares the living beejesus out of me.

I have spent the vast majority of my life falling randomly into job opportunities and I never really had much of a plan for what I wanted to do in life. Not that this is necessarily a bad thing… I’ve had the opportunity to work on a lot of different projects with some pretty amazing people.

Where I am is not where I planned to be, but I also didn’t particularly plan to be anywhere to get here.

And my current situation is a place that I’m not particularly content with, it’s certainly livable for the moment but it’s not what I want to be doing forever.

There are things that I would like to be doing, but for those things to be viable options of things to do… there are things that have to happen first.

Goals, if you were.

You know, those things that I like to avoid making at all costs.

At the root of it’s the fear of failure.

As lousy as this logic is… if I never define a goal, I never have to be disappointed if I don’t achieve it. I never have to be embarrassed if I didn’t achieve it. I never have to be accountable if I didn’t achieve it.

That’s a problem because by not making any short term goals, I have a tendency to not actually do much of anything towards the big picture dreams that I seem to come up with.

Which means in the big picture, I’m failing because I’m not doing anything.

So, I need to do that which scares me.

Health/Life

– Take one class yoga class by the end of the month.
– Cook meals at least three times a week.

Creative

– Prepare for a burlesque show on March 16th.
– Turn the heel on the sock I’ve been working on.

Blogging

– Write two to three blog posts a week.
– Make some needed adjustments to the blog’s theme.
– Prepare to add a button exchange / sponsors for April.

Business

– Update nikkiana.com and redesign it.
– Investigate modx.

6 thoughts on “March Goals

    • Seeing as the month is half over I’d probably say I was being too ambitious… but you know… I’m going to try my best.

  1. For the past 4 to 6 years, I had the goal of getting into medical school and becoming a practicing physician… Unfortunately, I’m already at the point where I’m in limbo with medical school admissions (waitlisted). I felt like a failure for the longest time and sometimes that feeling comes back from time to time when I am reminded that I didn’t get in. (My mother isn’t helping the cause when she talks about my degree and it being “useless.”)

    But one thing I learned about my journey to accomplish goals is that these goals can change and that you don’t have to consider yourself a failure. Hell, even I don’t try to make myself accountable for not getting into medical school even if it was my goal these past few years. Do I feel guilty about not “reaching my goal” nowadays? Nope. :-) I know I’m moving on to accomplish other things. Take my current situation: I’m in limbo for medical school, but I am now working towards my Plan B (physical therapy) which is also in the medical field.

    The only time you can call yourself a failure is when you completely give up on life and its many struggles.

    Good luck on those short-term goals you’ve listed! You’ve got many to do, but they’re very much doable.
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    • That’s true. Goals are certainly not a fixed in stone sort of deal. They have to respond to the realities of life, changing priorities, other outside factors, so on and so forth. I’ve been trying to make a concerted effort to not think of things in terms of success/fail when it comes to my goals and try to think of it more as something to strive toward.

  2. Good luck with your goals! i’m the same way, if I don’t have a list of goals, or a To Do list, I won’t get anything done. (though even having a list of goals doesn’t necessarily mean I work towards them…I haven’t done much this year, but I’m going to change that this month.) Hope you meet all yours!
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