If you were to hack into my feed reader and take a browse around of all the blogs I read, you’d find some incredibly positive blogs… Blogs abound mindful intention and gratitude, blogs about body acceptance, blogs about sex positivity, blogs about inspiration. Blogs about self-love, worthiness and connection.
A lot of sunshine and unicorn farts, essentially.
Yet, in spite of the fact that these are the sorts of things that I enjoy reading and enrich my life… I’ve been noticing that when I sit down to write myself, the sort of things that come off my fingers are generally on the opposite side of the spectrum of positive.
There’s a lot of can’ts. A whole host of so and so did me wrongs and a whole lot of I’m so different, feel so sorry for little old me.
It’s one big ol’ pity party up in my head.
I’ve been feeling a little caught up in that lately. It’s left me questioning what exactly I should put out to the world and what I should hold back for just me. I don’t know how many times I’ve sat down recently and went to type up a blog entry and just had it be a string of self-deprecation. I’ve gotten part way through writing something and just been like, “Ehhh… I don’t think anyone really needs to read that.”
One of the disadvantages to the blogging medium sometimes is the fact that you have to keep posting to keep in touch with your audience, and well.. I like you people who comment on my blog and stuff, and I don’t want to just sit here wallowing in my self pity and not posting anything… That’s kinda lame.
I find it’s this odd balance at times… Positive and negative.
I try to focus on the positive… being grateful for things, enjoying every sandwich… and then I end up getting swept up in all of the things that I dislike about my current situation or recounting in excruciating detail situations that happened many many years ago that I’m still not fully over.
So, I ask you dear readers… How do you strike that balance? Are you a more positive or negative person?
I still love you!
I am a very positive person and my blog is all sunshine, cookies and smiley children! I try and keep my negative vibe for the husband who listens, ignores me and hands me another gin- so all is good once again! I don’t see your posts as negative, just a little more honest perhaps than some of sunshine bloggers.
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Sometimes you gotta have the negative on the blog (I certainly do.) Even if no-one pays attention to it, at least it’s out there.
Life isn’t all positives, and if it is by some of these peoples’ blogs….I’d like to ‘sit in’ their lives for a day or so and probably pick up a lot of lows that they’re purposely leaving out just to make their lives appear perfect and sunshine-y.
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I definitely understand what you’re talking about. I don’t think I read A LOT of really positive blogs, but there are a decent amount in my feed reader, and it’s such a contrast to what’s going on in my head most of the time. I mean, it’s not like my mind is dark and horrible, but I do have a tendency to be fixated on the negative things.
I do hold back when blogging about negative things. A lot of the time it’s because those things are more personal anyway, but I do worry about alienating people with negativity as well.
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I’ve been struggling with this a lot too. But, I definitely think that when you’re in doubt, err on the side of honesty. Whatever is really going on with you should at least have some place in your writing. I think at least. I love that your posts are real and I can picture a human being behind them instead of a figment of someone’s imagination like some blogs out there.
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I think the balance has definitely tipped in both directions over my blogging journey. I tend to be pretty honest on my blog, so it reflects whatever is going on in my life, and who doesn’t have some negative times? My blog has always been first and foremost a place for me to think out loud, so to speak, so while I love my readers I don’t want to ever feel stifled by my audience. So I say, do whatever works best for you!
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