I’m one of those people who is a little sour on the idea of New Years resolutions because in general, I suck at them. I suck at making them, and I suck at keeping them. It’s been a very long time since I even taken a stab at them, because for a long time… I thought it was a pretty pointless exercise.
My inner critic would have you know that she’s still very skeptical and wishes me the worst of luck.
I’ve been reading through Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map recently, and I think the lady’s onto something about goal setting… Tackle how you want to feel first, then figure out all the details to get you to the destination of how you want to feel.
It really seems to be the missing element as to why my resolutions or various other goal lists that I’ve made over the years have pretty much fallen flat… I never took into account what I wanted to feel. I just made a laundry list of stuff that would be cool if it happened with no intention of actually chasing after it.
That “life list” that’s linked at the top of my blog? I couldn’t freaking tell you what’s on it without looking. Just goes to show how bad I want any of that stuff…
Also, as a person who’s done major battle with depression and anxiety for most of her life, the whole notion of having any control or even desire about how you want to feel is a pretty intense realization. When you fall into those dark places, it can be tough to remember that you have any choice in the feelings at all.
But… I do. And so do you.
I’ve personally decided that for now, I’m easing into the new year with some priorities to keep at heart.
1. Take care of yourself first. This is something I’m growing more and more convicted of as I get older. My world is full of some wonderful people. However, even the most wonderful of people have difficult days, and as a person who has ultra-empathetic tendencies, being drawn into someone else’s life drama can suck the life right out of me… and before I know it, I’m so worried about something that isn’t mine to worry about that I’ve forgotten to take time for myself.
2. Write your heart out. Writing has been my main creative outlet for probably as long as I’ve been able to do it, but I don’t always give it the time and attention it deserves… A top priority this year? Writing. Everyday. No worrying about what’s going to come out of it.
3. Move your body. As someone who spends most of her workday sitting down in front of a computer, getting up and moving around is really important. I’m lucky in the sense that a significant amount of exercise is just built into my day considering that part of my daily commute is on foot and I live on the fifth floor of a walkup building… but I’m adding yoga back into my routine, too. I bought myself a year’s unlimited package so I have no excuse!
How about you? Do you have any resolutions or priorities for the New Year?